Bad news on human communication
After 30 years, my ex stopped communicating with me three years ago. This happened multiple times in the past but she really means it this time. For real!
It's working. I don't know where she lives, what she does (there may be some mountain biking) or any of her social network. She was my life partner.
Due to this termination of communication, my divorce has now cost me over $300,000 in legal bills. It's expensive to resolve stuff when one person is defaults as always to her kneejerk childhood behavioral patterns. My growing, raw, PTSD anger at my ex did not cost me 300k. Her ghosting did. That and a few “collaborative” matrimonial lawyers (the FTC does not allow the use of the word natural when manufactured chemicals are present. No law firm should ever be allowed to mow-market “collaboration.”)
Today I heard from my exfor the first time in six months unsolicited. A bill for $114 forwarded via enail, with no message. She's making progress as an adult.
That's my ex. No surprises. But god my marriage has made me abandon hope that geopolitics will ever lead to anything other than mass murder. Look at the mess the two of us made. We're far less effective than most couples, but still.
It's working. I don't know where she lives, what she does (there may be some mountain biking) or any of her social network. She was my life partner.
Due to this termination of communication, my divorce has now cost me over $300,000 in legal bills. It's expensive to resolve stuff when one person is defaults as always to her kneejerk childhood behavioral patterns. My growing, raw, PTSD anger at my ex did not cost me 300k. Her ghosting did. That and a few “collaborative” matrimonial lawyers (the FTC does not allow the use of the word natural when manufactured chemicals are present. No law firm should ever be allowed to mow-market “collaboration.”)
Today I heard from my exfor the first time in six months unsolicited. A bill for $114 forwarded via enail, with no message. She's making progress as an adult.
That's my ex. No surprises. But god my marriage has made me abandon hope that geopolitics will ever lead to anything other than mass murder. Look at the mess the two of us made. We're far less effective than most couples, but still.
Writ large at the cultural level, humans are fucked forever. Gaza is the best we can hope for. Soweto was just a previous version. Every season will bring new corpses from the west to Kabul, as always. Fentanyl is always available to catalyze.The world will survive after humans have fully self-exterminated.
Until then, in lieu of difficult conversations, we have drones and weapons sales. Why bother paying your $114 bills with humans like my ex! And me!
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