Reflecting on who my life partner was
Today was tough on the divorce trail. My ex did something that would have been fine if she'd disclosed—which she never does. I interpret this behavior as specifically intended to cause harm, and portray indifference. I have no data to prove or disprove my assumption.
It does align with the complaints I would throw at my ex every time we were arguing about god knows what. For instance:
1. There's always a reason…
2. That hurts. Can you dial that back a little?
3. In terms of how much affirmation I receive, there's no difference between when you're mad at me and when you're not.
4. You're an expert. Is that language allowed in Non-violent Communication?
It does align with the complaints I would throw at my ex every time we were arguing about god knows what. For instance:
1. There's always a reason…
2. That hurts. Can you dial that back a little?
3. In terms of how much affirmation I receive, there's no difference between when you're mad at me and when you're not.
4. You're an expert. Is that language allowed in Non-violent Communication?
5. One day after insertion you’re ok. Two days after you get rattled. Three days after you’re at war.
6. The only technique I’ve found to get you to stop hurting me is to talk over you loudly. I learned this from your mom…and I believe that’s how she kept the bullies in her life at arm’s length.
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