A friend sent these words about my failed marriage and ex-life partner

I don't know how I feel about this…I tend to defend my ex to others, despite her shortcomings.

 

So I'll just cut and paste.

 

"…good for you.  You're finally really angry about HER instead of being mad at yourself about not wanting to see what you intuitively knew.  Lucky you that you didn't take her back…I know that thought flashes by you regularly.  But, I think your uncounscious self survival mechanisms stopped you, and you used whatever tools you needed to profect yourself.  Thank god.  Let her believe that you're an insane lunatic if that keeps her far far away.  Her utter self involvement persented in a good looking superficial wrapping and a lot of acting helped her play the role of a wife and engaged partner until aging, insecurity, and whatever else needed constant confirmation of her capacity to attract.  Focus on how LUCKY you are when your're feeling taken, abused, trivialized, shameful, depressed and unable to get off the couch."

 

 

Thank you to the friend who wrote this…will contemplate and try to internalize.  I am lucky…and lonely and in pain and angry at the one person I counted on who let me down so profoundly that I feel into a mental health breakdown.