Cultural hypocrisy around male anger

If a woman complains about an angry man, it's assumed by all parties that she speaks the truth.  This cultural mandate is so strong that it overrides evidence of dishonesty, personality disorder(s), suicidal tendencies, adultery, theft, violence, gaslighting, denial, sexual abuse, clinical indecisiveness, and more.

 

I found myself in a situation surrounded by these characteristics. I got angry.  All these elements listed above are core elements of sociopathic narcissistic personality disorder.  People afflicted with this genetic disease believe they're perfect.  Since they can't afford to lose the spotlight on their charm, they will backstab until the land around them is scorched and charred and black.  Not a living thing will stand.  Not family.  Not pets (my beautiful Emily died a year ago yesterday—I was not with her).

 

I am appropriately angry at being victimized by a sociopath.  My narcissistic marriage never got solidly off the ground—my partner began using "affection" and sex as weapons within the first 30 days.  She withdrew and ghosted me and dozens of friends to manipulate and isolate her victims and to keep her faux power. It never stopped.  I stupidly watched her mistreat and hurt others and did very little to protect them from my clearly viscious life partner.

 

Then I needed her help because I was vulnerable and weak.  And the psychological scorched earth weapons turned on me.

 

That's what it's like, being a male victim of abuse by an NPD spouse.  Textbook.  I attended a support group of similar victims for nine months.  Most of the woman were damaged far more than I.  But they could all be angry about the assholes that hurt them.  After 28 years of selling my soul in a counterproductive and fruitless effort to be a pleaser, I am now not allowed to be angry at my asshole wife.

 

Except in my support group.  I have ripped you to shreds, and laid your plastic heart out in the desert sun, with my fellow victims of abusive marriages.